具体描述
Our earliest experiences shape our lives far down the road, and What Happened to You? provides powerful scientific and emotional insights into the behavioral patterns so many of us struggle to understand.
“Through this lens we can build a renewed sense of personal self-worth and ultimately recalibrate our responses to circumstances, situations, and relationships. It is, in other words, the key to reshaping our very lives.”―Oprah Winfrey
This book is going to change the way you see your life.
Have you ever wondered "Why did I do that?" or "Why can't I just control my behavior?" Others may judge our reactions and think, "What's wrong with that person?" When questioning our emotions, it's easy to place the blame on ourselves; holding ourselves and those around us to an impossible standard. It's time we started asking a different question.
Through deeply personal conversations, Oprah Winfrey and renowned brain and trauma expert Dr. Bruce Perry offer a groundbreaking and profound shift from asking “What’s wrong with you?” to “What happened to you?”
Here, Winfrey shares stories from her own past, understanding through experience the vulnerability that comes from facing trauma and adversity at a young age. In conversation throughout the book, she and Dr. Perry focus on understanding people, behavior, and ourselves. It’s a subtle but profound shift in our approach to trauma, and it’s one that allows us to understand our pasts in order to clear a path to our future―opening the door to resilience and healing in a proven, powerful way.
用户评价
##audible听完，作为HSP觉得很有启发（并且再次意识到了relationships的重要性…
##what happened to you is what is happening to you
##what happened to you is what is happening to you
##很容易读，也很容易懂，但是实践需要努力。
##有很多例子去解释大脑的神经原如何因为我们的经历不同而变化，好消息是那些应激反应，焦虑，PTSD都可以被改善疗愈。现代人心理咨询的重要性啊！
##聊天的形式很chill，有声书果然才是这本书的正确打开方式。虽然内容老生常谈了些，不过对于才刚开始进行原生家庭“自我救赎”的人来讲倒也挺合适的。唯一不能苟同的是最后Oprah讲她原谅自己母亲的故事：也许对她而言这样做无可厚非，但与此同时人们也绝不该为自己迟迟不肯原谅父母而感到彷徨自责，毕竟不是所有父母都值得被原谅的，更何况很多时候，你以为的forgiveness其实只是为父母找的借口而已。 总之 祝我们都能早日拥有post traumatic wisdom吧😊
##Rhythms. Heartbeat. >Walking, dancing, and singing. - The natural world has reassuring rhythms that can anchor our days. As we walk, we tune in to our own natural rhythms and are able to have a break from the noise and stimulation of our busy lives. Stress can help build resilience – in the right doses.
##绝不原谅施虐者
##很容易读，也很容易懂，但是实践需要努力。