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圖書基本信息
圖書名稱	大寶二寶有心事-二孩教養80問	作者	高文斌
定價	36.00元	齣版社	科學普及齣版社
ISBN	9787110094174	齣版日期	2016-08-01
字數		頁碼
版次	1	裝幀	平裝
開本	16開	商品重量	0.4Kg

內容簡介

隨著國傢二孩政策的全麵實施，父母們對於二胎生育也存在著諸多疑慮，比如對身體的影響、對傢庭關係的影響、對大寶的影響和教養方式的選擇等，涉及到醫學、心理學、教育學等很多方麵。其中心理方麵就涉及發展心理學、婚戀心理學和教育心理學等眾多領域的專業知識。本書重點從心理學角度展開各個話題。作者希望結閤心理學專業的一些基本理論、方法和技術，針對龐大的“二胎預備隊”的疑慮有所解答，幫助大傢做齣更好的決策。隨著二孩生育政策的落地，大部分傢庭將會迎來二孩的養育生活，同時也會麵臨著二孩養育的種種問題，甚至是煩惱。為瞭幫助年輕傢長解決在養育兩個孩子時遇到的問題，本書特地從年輕父母在計劃懷二孩的心理問題調適、對大寶的心理引導、兩個孩子的相處之道、養育孩子健康心理的方式、疏導孩子心理問題、矯正傢長的育兒心理問題以及隔代傢長的心理問題解答，以求對二孩傢長進行指導。

作者簡介

高文斌，男，副研究員，博士。現任中國科學院心理研究所心理健康促進研究中心主任，一直緻力於心理健康促進的理論研究與臨床實踐，發錶論文30餘篇，著作10餘部。

目錄

目錄 前言 章 兩個人的責任-----父母産前心理調適 1.媽媽擔心沒有足夠精力給寶寶們好的照顧，怎麼辦？ 2.擔心不能保證對大寶一如既往的關注，怎麼辦？ 3擔心養育兩個寶寶會降低生活質量，怎麼辦？ 4.大寶齣生多久適閤生育二寶？ 5.再次懷孕期間，如何維護與配偶的親密關係？ 6.擔心養育兩個寶寶會占用精力，怎麼辦？ 7.大寶教育不成功 擔心自己有能力教育好二寶嗎？ 8.擔心二寶的到來造成對大寶的傷害怎麼辦？ 9.生育二寶要做全職媽媽瞭需注意什麼？ 10.擔心養育兩個寶寶會更壓縮夫妻私密空間，怎麼辦？ 11.夫妻雙方對生育二寶意見不一緻怎麼辦？ 12.妻子懷孕時情緒狀態不好應如何自我調節？ 13.丈夫在妻子孕期如何協助妻子照顧大寶？ 14.擔心給每個孩子的陪伴時間更短瞭，怎麼辦？ 15.妻子情緒起伏時丈夫應該如何幫助調適？ 16.妻子生育兩個寶寶後，丈夫擔心自己受冷落？ 17.丈夫把壓力悶在心裏是對妻子的支持嗎？ 18.媽媽擔心因為再生育變成“黃臉婆”，怎麼辦？ 19.媽媽擔心養育孩子會無法實現夢想，怎麼辦？ 20.丈夫如何應對二寶帶來的壓力？ 21.父母的童年不幸福，是否有能力給自己的孩子幸福？ 第2章 三個人的未來----大寶的心理調適 22.生育二寶，需要徵求大寶意見嗎？ 23.如何讓大寶接受手來的弟弟妹妹？ 24.大寶不同意有弟弟妹妹，怎麼辦？ 25.大寶同意瞭要弟弟妹妹，日後相處愉快嗎？ 26.兩個寶寶真的不再孤單嗎？ 27.大寶接納二寶的關鍵期是什麼？ 第3章 四個人的世界----傢庭心理教育 （一）同胞的故事——同胞相處問題 28.照顧二寶時大寶總是哭鬧爭寵，應該怎麼處理？ 29.對待兩個孩子應該做到“完全均等”嗎？ 30.兩個孩子之間發生衝突，應該“護大”還是“護小”？ 31.兩個孩子在遊戲中産生爭執時，是否應該介入？ 32.哄二寶時大寶還在大聲吵鬧，應該如何處理？ 33.應該當著一個孩子的麵批評另一個孩子嗎？ 34.大寶應該比二寶更懂事嗎？ 35.如何看待同胞間的吵架爭執？ 36.“長兄如父”真的過時瞭嗎？ 37.如何對待二寶的“告狀”？ 38.應該讓大寶參與到照顧二寶的過程中來嗎？ 39.大寶想讓父母保證愛自己，如何應對？ 40.沒有精力教養兩個孩子時，可以把大寶交付給老人嗎？ 41.如何培育大寶當哥哥或姐姐的自豪感？ 42.大寶的教育如果有缺憾，要在二寶身上彌補嗎？ 43.二寶降生之後，為什麼大寶不如以前聽話瞭？ 44.如何避免對兩個孩子的過分比較？ 45.怎樣看待兩個孩子之間的互相競爭？ 46.大寶總是欺負二寶怎麼辦？ 47.如何看待與應對兩個孩子之間的差異？ 48.如何誇奬孩子纔不會引發另一個孩子的嫉妒？ 49.大寶與二寶年齡差距較大時，需要注意些什麼？ 50.兩個孩子性彆相同與性彆不同時，教養方式一樣嗎？ 51.大寶看起來“懂事”就意味著從內心接納二寶瞭嗎？ （二）“父母的心事”——傢庭教養方式 52.應該如何處理傢庭與工作帶來的負麵情緒與壓力？ 53.愛人與自己的教育觀念不一緻，應該如何溝通？ 54.母親的關愛是孩子安全感的重要來源，為什麼？ 55.為什麼在孩子成長過程中父母功能都是不可或缺的？ 56.父母一方與孩子發生衝突另一方應該做些什麼？ 57.在兩個孩子的教養中，父親的參與為什麼尤為重要？ 58.“大寶照書養，二寶照豬養”，真的有道理嗎？ 59.父親應該在什麼孩子多大時參與到教養中來？ 60.不同意配偶的教育行為時，是否應該製止？ 61.父母對孩子應該“一個唱紅臉，一個唱白臉”嗎？ 62.為什麼父親的參與是孩子自控力的重要來源？ 63.父母如何培養兩個孩子的閤作意識？ 64.父母因為孩子教育問題發生爭執應該如何解決？ 65.父母情緒不穩定對孩子成長有什麼影響？ 66.為什麼要做個“懶爸爸”“懶媽媽”？ 67.和孩子相處時間短就意味著不良的教養嗎？ 68.母親應該將時間都投入到兩個孩子身上嗎？ 69.父母如何平衡孩子教育與自身職業發展的關係？ 70.當孩子受欺負瞭怎麼辦？ 71.孩子總搶彆人的玩具怎麼辦？ 72.批評孩子時需注意什麼？ 73.錶揚孩子時需注意什麼？ 第4章 隔代人的牽掛----祖輩教養須知 74.老人帶孩子有哪些利弊？ 75.將孩子托付給老人教養，父母應該注意什麼？ 76.老人喜歡嚇唬孩子，怎麼辦？ 77.老人對孩子過於溺愛，怎麼辦？ 78.老人對孩子過分保護，怎麼辦？ 79.父母與老人教育方式不同，對孩子有什麼影響？ 80.不同意老人的教養方式，該如何應對？

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該書是一本以調查研究為基礎的、針對二孩甚至多孩子傢庭教育的一本好書。本書主編高文斌是知名的心理學傢，研究隊伍專業，內容貼近實際需要，行文流暢，好看易懂，是進行傢庭教育的一本好參考書。

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siblings, a treasure trove of wisdom for navigating the joys and challenges of raising two children. In the journey of parenthood, the arrival of a second child, while doubling the love, also brings a unique set of considerations and potential complexities. The dynamic shifts, the attention is divided, and the emotional landscape for both children and parents undergoes a significant transformation. 大寶二寶有心事-二孩教養80問 is an insightful and comprehensive guide designed to equip parents with the understanding and practical strategies needed to foster a harmonious and loving sibling relationship, while also nurturing each child’s individual growth and development. This book delves deep into the multifaceted world of raising two children, acknowledging that each family’s experience is distinct, yet common threads bind the journey together. It recognizes that "大寶" (the elder child) and "二寶" (the younger child) each possess their own inner world, their own aspirations, anxieties, and evolving needs. The "有心事" (having thoughts and worries) in the title speaks to this internal landscape, emphasizing the importance of tuning into each child's emotional well-being and addressing their unspoken concerns. 大寶二寶有心事-二孩教養80問 is structured around a series of eighty probing questions, each designed to address a critical aspect of dual-child upbringing. This question-and-answer format makes the book accessible, practical, and directly relevant to the everyday challenges parents face. It avoids abstract theories and instead offers concrete advice grounded in developmental psychology, expert recommendations, and real-world parenting scenarios. One of the primary areas explored is the transition to a multi-child family. The book tackles the inevitable shifts that occur when a second child enters the picture. How does the elder child cope with the new arrival? How can parents ensure the "大寶" doesn't feel replaced or neglected? It offers guidance on preparing the elder child for their new role as a sibling, fostering a sense of inclusion rather than rivalry, and managing jealousy and possessiveness that may arise. This includes practical tips on how to allocate time and attention, celebrate the elder child's milestones, and validate their feelings during this adjustment period. The book also extensively addresses the unique developmental stages and emotional needs of each child. It understands that a two-year-old has vastly different requirements from a six-year-old, and that the birth order can influence personality and behavior. For "大寶," the questions might revolve around maintaining their sense of individuality and importance, encouraging leadership qualities without fostering arrogance, and helping them adapt to sharing and compromise. For "二寶," the focus might be on ensuring they receive adequate attention, developing their own independent identity, and navigating the dynamics of being the younger sibling, often benefiting from the experiences and role-modeling of their older sibling. Sibling rivalry is a recurring theme throughout the book, and it’s explored with a nuanced and constructive approach. Instead of aiming to eliminate rivalry entirely, the book focuses on managing it effectively and transforming it into an opportunity for learning and growth. It provides strategies for mediating conflicts, teaching valuable social skills like empathy and negotiation, and helping children understand each other’s perspectives. The aim is to cultivate a relationship where siblings can learn to love, support, and even inspire one another, rather than constantly competing for parental affection or resources. Parental well-being and balance are not overlooked. Raising two children is demanding, and the book acknowledges the toll it can take on parents. It offers advice on managing stress, finding moments of self-care, maintaining a strong marital relationship, and fostering effective communication within the family unit. The "80問" format allows parents to dip into sections relevant to their current challenges, finding solace and solutions without feeling overwhelmed by a lengthy treatise. Furthermore, 大寶二寶有心事-二孩教養80問 delves into the specifics of discipline and guidance in a two-child household. How do parents maintain consistent rules and expectations when dealing with children of different ages and temperaments? The book provides practical techniques for positive discipline, encouraging cooperation, and fostering a sense of responsibility in both children. It emphasizes the importance of individualized approaches while also promoting family harmony and respect. The book also touches upon social development and peer relationships for both children. How can parents encourage their children to build healthy friendships outside the family, and how can the sibling bond itself contribute to their social competence? It explores the role of siblings in teaching social cues, conflict resolution, and the nuances of human interaction. Crucially, the book champions the idea of celebrating individuality within the family unit. While the focus is on fostering a strong sibling bond, it’s equally important for each child to feel seen, heard, and valued for who they are as unique individuals. The "80問" likely includes questions about encouraging diverse interests, supporting individual talents, and allowing children to forge their own paths, free from the direct comparisons that can sometimes arise between siblings. The "80問" format suggests a comprehensive exploration of a wide array of scenarios and questions that parents of two children will undoubtedly encounter. These might range from the seemingly simple ("How do I share toys fairly?") to the more complex ("How do I help my elder child cope with the arrival of a second child?"). The book likely covers practical aspects like managing bedtime routines with two children, planning family outings, and dividing chores. It also delves into the emotional aspects, such as dealing with sibling bullying, helping children manage disappointment, and fostering a sense of belonging for both "大寶" and "二寶." Ultimately, 大寶二寶有心事-二孩教養80問 aims to empower parents with the knowledge and confidence to navigate the exciting, challenging, and profoundly rewarding journey of raising two children. It’s a testament to the belief that with understanding, patience, and effective strategies, families can cultivate deep and lasting sibling bonds, while ensuring that each child thrives and grows into a well-adjusted, happy, and confident individual. It’s a resource that acknowledges the unique heartaches and triumphs of a two-child family, offering practical wisdom to help parents nurture love, resilience, and connection.