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图书名称	大宝二宝有心事-二孩教养80问	作者	高文斌
定价	36.00元	出版社	科学普及出版社
ISBN	9787110094174	出版日期	2016-08-01
字数		页码
版次	1	装帧	平装
开本	16开	商品重量	0.4Kg

内容简介

随着国家二孩政策的全面实施，父母们对于二胎生育也存在着诸多疑虑，比如对身体的影响、对家庭关系的影响、对大宝的影响和教养方式的选择等，涉及到医学、心理学、教育学等很多方面。其中心理方面就涉及发展心理学、婚恋心理学和教育心理学等众多领域的专业知识。本书重点从心理学角度展开各个话题。作者希望结合心理学专业的一些基本理论、方法和技术，针对庞大的“二胎预备队”的疑虑有所解答，帮助大家做出更好的决策。随着二孩生育政策的落地，大部分家庭将会迎来二孩的养育生活，同时也会面临着二孩养育的种种问题，甚至是烦恼。为了帮助年轻家长解决在养育两个孩子时遇到的问题，本书特地从年轻父母在计划怀二孩的心理问题调适、对大宝的心理引导、两个孩子的相处之道、养育孩子健康心理的方式、疏导孩子心理问题、矫正家长的育儿心理问题以及隔代家长的心理问题解答，以求对二孩家长进行指导。

作者简介

高文斌，男，副研究员，博士。现任中国科学院心理研究所心理健康促进研究中心主任，一直致力于心理健康促进的理论研究与临床实践，发表论文30余篇，著作10余部。

目录

目录 前言 章 两个人的责任-----父母产前心理调适 1.妈妈担心没有足够精力给宝宝们好的照顾，怎么办？ 2.担心不能保证对大宝一如既往的关注，怎么办？ 3担心养育两个宝宝会降低生活质量，怎么办？ 4.大宝出生多久适合生育二宝？ 5.再次怀孕期间，如何维护与配偶的亲密关系？ 6.担心养育两个宝宝会占用精力，怎么办？ 7.大宝教育不成功 担心自己有能力教育好二宝吗？ 8.担心二宝的到来造成对大宝的伤害怎么办？ 9.生育二宝要做全职妈妈了需注意什么？ 10.担心养育两个宝宝会更压缩夫妻私密空间，怎么办？ 11.夫妻双方对生育二宝意见不一致怎么办？ 12.妻子怀孕时情绪状态不好应如何自我调节？ 13.丈夫在妻子孕期如何协助妻子照顾大宝？ 14.担心给每个孩子的陪伴时间更短了，怎么办？ 15.妻子情绪起伏时丈夫应该如何帮助调适？ 16.妻子生育两个宝宝后，丈夫担心自己受冷落？ 17.丈夫把压力闷在心里是对妻子的支持吗？ 18.妈妈担心因为再生育变成“黄脸婆”，怎么办？ 19.妈妈担心养育孩子会无法实现梦想，怎么办？ 20.丈夫如何应对二宝带来的压力？ 21.父母的童年不幸福，是否有能力给自己的孩子幸福？ 第2章 三个人的未来----大宝的心理调适 22.生育二宝，需要征求大宝意见吗？ 23.如何让大宝接受手来的弟弟妹妹？ 24.大宝不同意有弟弟妹妹，怎么办？ 25.大宝同意了要弟弟妹妹，日后相处愉快吗？ 26.两个宝宝真的不再孤单吗？ 27.大宝接纳二宝的关键期是什么？ 第3章 四个人的世界----家庭心理教育 （一）同胞的故事——同胞相处问题 28.照顾二宝时大宝总是哭闹争宠，应该怎么处理？ 29.对待两个孩子应该做到“完全均等”吗？ 30.两个孩子之间发生冲突，应该“护大”还是“护小”？ 31.两个孩子在游戏中产生争执时，是否应该介入？ 32.哄二宝时大宝还在大声吵闹，应该如何处理？ 33.应该当着一个孩子的面批评另一个孩子吗？ 34.大宝应该比二宝更懂事吗？ 35.如何看待同胞间的吵架争执？ 36.“长兄如父”真的过时了吗？ 37.如何对待二宝的“告状”？ 38.应该让大宝参与到照顾二宝的过程中来吗？ 39.大宝想让父母保证爱自己，如何应对？ 40.没有精力教养两个孩子时，可以把大宝交付给老人吗？ 41.如何培育大宝当哥哥或姐姐的自豪感？ 42.大宝的教育如果有缺憾，要在二宝身上弥补吗？ 43.二宝降生之后，为什么大宝不如以前听话了？ 44.如何避免对两个孩子的过分比较？ 45.怎样看待两个孩子之间的互相竞争？ 46.大宝总是欺负二宝怎么办？ 47.如何看待与应对两个孩子之间的差异？ 48.如何夸奖孩子才不会引发另一个孩子的嫉妒？ 49.大宝与二宝年龄差距较大时，需要注意些什么？ 50.两个孩子性别相同与性别不同时，教养方式一样吗？ 51.大宝看起来“懂事”就意味着从内心接纳二宝了吗？ （二）“父母的心事”——家庭教养方式 52.应该如何处理家庭与工作带来的负面情绪与压力？ 53.爱人与自己的教育观念不一致，应该如何沟通？ 54.母亲的关爱是孩子安全感的重要来源，为什么？ 55.为什么在孩子成长过程中父母功能都是不可或缺的？ 56.父母一方与孩子发生冲突另一方应该做些什么？ 57.在两个孩子的教养中，父亲的参与为什么尤为重要？ 58.“大宝照书养，二宝照猪养”，真的有道理吗？ 59.父亲应该在什么孩子多大时参与到教养中来？ 60.不同意配偶的教育行为时，是否应该制止？ 61.父母对孩子应该“一个唱红脸，一个唱白脸”吗？ 62.为什么父亲的参与是孩子自控力的重要来源？ 63.父母如何培养两个孩子的合作意识？ 64.父母因为孩子教育问题发生争执应该如何解决？ 65.父母情绪不稳定对孩子成长有什么影响？ 66.为什么要做个“懒爸爸”“懒妈妈”？ 67.和孩子相处时间短就意味着不良的教养吗？ 68.母亲应该将时间都投入到两个孩子身上吗？ 69.父母如何平衡孩子教育与自身职业发展的关系？ 70.当孩子受欺负了怎么办？ 71.孩子总抢别人的玩具怎么办？ 72.批评孩子时需注意什么？ 73.表扬孩子时需注意什么？ 第4章 隔代人的牵挂----祖辈教养须知 74.老人带孩子有哪些利弊？ 75.将孩子托付给老人教养，父母应该注意什么？ 76.老人喜欢吓唬孩子，怎么办？ 77.老人对孩子过于溺爱，怎么办？ 78.老人对孩子过分保护，怎么办？ 79.父母与老人教育方式不同，对孩子有什么影响？ 80.不同意老人的教养方式，该如何应对？

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该书是一本以调查研究为基础的、针对二孩甚至多孩子家庭教育的一本好书。本书主编高文斌是知名的心理学家，研究队伍专业，内容贴近实际需要，行文流畅，好看易懂，是进行家庭教育的一本好参考书。

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siblings, a treasure trove of wisdom for navigating the joys and challenges of raising two children. In the journey of parenthood, the arrival of a second child, while doubling the love, also brings a unique set of considerations and potential complexities. The dynamic shifts, the attention is divided, and the emotional landscape for both children and parents undergoes a significant transformation. 大宝二宝有心事-二孩教养80问 is an insightful and comprehensive guide designed to equip parents with the understanding and practical strategies needed to foster a harmonious and loving sibling relationship, while also nurturing each child’s individual growth and development. This book delves deep into the multifaceted world of raising two children, acknowledging that each family’s experience is distinct, yet common threads bind the journey together. It recognizes that "大宝" (the elder child) and "二宝" (the younger child) each possess their own inner world, their own aspirations, anxieties, and evolving needs. The "有心事" (having thoughts and worries) in the title speaks to this internal landscape, emphasizing the importance of tuning into each child's emotional well-being and addressing their unspoken concerns. 大宝二宝有心事-二孩教养80问 is structured around a series of eighty probing questions, each designed to address a critical aspect of dual-child upbringing. This question-and-answer format makes the book accessible, practical, and directly relevant to the everyday challenges parents face. It avoids abstract theories and instead offers concrete advice grounded in developmental psychology, expert recommendations, and real-world parenting scenarios. One of the primary areas explored is the transition to a multi-child family. The book tackles the inevitable shifts that occur when a second child enters the picture. How does the elder child cope with the new arrival? How can parents ensure the "大宝" doesn't feel replaced or neglected? It offers guidance on preparing the elder child for their new role as a sibling, fostering a sense of inclusion rather than rivalry, and managing jealousy and possessiveness that may arise. This includes practical tips on how to allocate time and attention, celebrate the elder child's milestones, and validate their feelings during this adjustment period. The book also extensively addresses the unique developmental stages and emotional needs of each child. It understands that a two-year-old has vastly different requirements from a six-year-old, and that the birth order can influence personality and behavior. For "大宝," the questions might revolve around maintaining their sense of individuality and importance, encouraging leadership qualities without fostering arrogance, and helping them adapt to sharing and compromise. For "二宝," the focus might be on ensuring they receive adequate attention, developing their own independent identity, and navigating the dynamics of being the younger sibling, often benefiting from the experiences and role-modeling of their older sibling. Sibling rivalry is a recurring theme throughout the book, and it’s explored with a nuanced and constructive approach. Instead of aiming to eliminate rivalry entirely, the book focuses on managing it effectively and transforming it into an opportunity for learning and growth. It provides strategies for mediating conflicts, teaching valuable social skills like empathy and negotiation, and helping children understand each other’s perspectives. The aim is to cultivate a relationship where siblings can learn to love, support, and even inspire one another, rather than constantly competing for parental affection or resources. Parental well-being and balance are not overlooked. Raising two children is demanding, and the book acknowledges the toll it can take on parents. It offers advice on managing stress, finding moments of self-care, maintaining a strong marital relationship, and fostering effective communication within the family unit. The "80问" format allows parents to dip into sections relevant to their current challenges, finding solace and solutions without feeling overwhelmed by a lengthy treatise. Furthermore, 大宝二宝有心事-二孩教养80问 delves into the specifics of discipline and guidance in a two-child household. How do parents maintain consistent rules and expectations when dealing with children of different ages and temperaments? The book provides practical techniques for positive discipline, encouraging cooperation, and fostering a sense of responsibility in both children. It emphasizes the importance of individualized approaches while also promoting family harmony and respect. The book also touches upon social development and peer relationships for both children. How can parents encourage their children to build healthy friendships outside the family, and how can the sibling bond itself contribute to their social competence? It explores the role of siblings in teaching social cues, conflict resolution, and the nuances of human interaction. Crucially, the book champions the idea of celebrating individuality within the family unit. While the focus is on fostering a strong sibling bond, it’s equally important for each child to feel seen, heard, and valued for who they are as unique individuals. The "80问" likely includes questions about encouraging diverse interests, supporting individual talents, and allowing children to forge their own paths, free from the direct comparisons that can sometimes arise between siblings. The "80问" format suggests a comprehensive exploration of a wide array of scenarios and questions that parents of two children will undoubtedly encounter. These might range from the seemingly simple ("How do I share toys fairly?") to the more complex ("How do I help my elder child cope with the arrival of a second child?"). The book likely covers practical aspects like managing bedtime routines with two children, planning family outings, and dividing chores. It also delves into the emotional aspects, such as dealing with sibling bullying, helping children manage disappointment, and fostering a sense of belonging for both "大宝" and "二宝." Ultimately, 大宝二宝有心事-二孩教养80问 aims to empower parents with the knowledge and confidence to navigate the exciting, challenging, and profoundly rewarding journey of raising two children. It’s a testament to the belief that with understanding, patience, and effective strategies, families can cultivate deep and lasting sibling bonds, while ensuring that each child thrives and grows into a well-adjusted, happy, and confident individual. It’s a resource that acknowledges the unique heartaches and triumphs of a two-child family, offering practical wisdom to help parents nurture love, resilience, and connection.