发表于2024-11-11
Esther Perel is a couples and family therapist with a private practice in New York City. She is on the faculty of the International Trauma Studies program at Columbia University, is a member of the American Family Therapy Academy, and has appeared on many television programs, including The Oprah Winfrey Show, Good Day New York, CBS This Morning, and HBO's Women Aloud. She lives in New York City with her husband and two children.
Iconic couples’ therapist and bestselling author of Mating in Captivity Esther Perel returns with a provocative look at relationships through the lens of infidelity.
Affairs, she argues, have a lot to teach us about the human heart—what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many variations.
An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. Adultery has existed since marriage was invented, and so too the prohibition against it—in fact, it has a tenacity that marriage can only envy. So what are we to make of this time-honored taboo—universally forbidden yet universally practiced? Why do people cheat—even those in happy marriages? Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? Perel weaves real-life case stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book.
For the past ten years, Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage—with the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart.
Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, “Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.”
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The State of Affairs 下载 mobi epub pdf 电子书##看完埃丝特佩瑞尔这两本书,我关于婚姻或者说亲密关系的疑惑已经解决大半了。这位太太真的十分敢说也十分坦诚,就如她所言,她的工作更像是量体裁衣的裁缝,不想让每对夫妇都穿同样的衣服;没有同样情形的出轨是因为没有一模一样的人和一模一样的婚姻问题,她一直在带领他们尝...
评分 评分 评分##写作风格太散乱,例子太多,看不太下去了。不过得到一些启发
评分 评分 评分在一开始碰到这本书的时候,我以为会是聚集了各类让人瞠目结舌的出轨例子的知音体和心灵鸡汤,心里不免带着一丝犹豫踌躇。而实际上,这本书完全是“另辟蹊径”地去谈出轨。作者Esther Perel是从事婚姻咨询三十多年的心理治疗师,接手了上万个婚姻出轨的案例。这本书的观察角度...
评分##我们相信的时候,一颗心永远坚定;我们走到最后,发现一颗心无法看到究竟。 一段感情,两个人关系破裂的时候,原来的一切,好像都换了一副面孔。关心的承担变成了自私的独裁,细致的安排变成了烦闷的套路,理所应当变成无礼冒犯,爱变成恨。 而当年以爱之名留下的痕迹,全部成...
评分##4.5 Perel opens up a taboo conversation that should've been held a long time ago. With her professional, profound and insightful prose, Perel seeks to neither judge the unfaithful nor justify the action of philandering; her kind and wise words encourage us to take a dual perspective and anticipate the most imponderables. Highly recommended.
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