具体描述
An essential exploration of why and how women's sexuality works--based on groundbreaking research and brain science--that will radically transform your sex life into one filled with confidence and joy.
Researchers have spent the last decade trying to develop a "pink pill" for women to function like Viagra does for men. So where is it? Well, for reasons this book makes crystal clear, that pill will never be the answer--but as a result of the research that's gone into it, scientists in the last few years have learned more about how women's sexuality works than we ever thought possible, and Come as You Are explains it all.
The first lesson in this essential, transformative book by Dr. Emily Nagoski is that every woman has her own unique sexuality, like a fingerprint, and that women vary more than men in our anatomy, our sexual response mechanisms, and the way our bodies respond to the sexual world. So we never need to judge ourselves based on others' experiences. Because women vary, and that's normal.
Second lesson: sex happens in a context. And all the complications of everyday life influence the context surrounding a woman's arousal, desire, and orgasm.
Cutting-edge research across multiple disciplines tells us that the most important factor for women in creating and sustaining a fulfilling sex life, is not what you do in bed or how you do it, but how you feel about it. Which means that stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman's sexual wellbeing; they are central to it. Once you understand these factors, and how to influence them, you can create for yourself better sex and more profound pleasure than you ever thought possible.
And Emily Nagoski can prove it.
用户评价
##It is more than a book about sex written by a sex educator. It makes me want to weep every time the author reiterates “You’re totally normal.” “Don’t criticize or judge yourself. You are not the one to blame.” The book covers a lot related to female well-being, from body shaming to sexual harassment, from body-mind dissonance to self acceptance.
##当老师的人循循善诱写出来的书……换句话说，墨迹。有些fun facts, dual control is new, nothing life changing though
##Definitely not the target audience of this book. There are some interesting ideas but the way this book was written/read irradiated me so much while I was reading it.
##Female orgasm is so fascinating
##虽然举的例子读得我有点不耐心 但是不妨碍我巨爱作者的理念并想加以实践！
##一开始看这骚气的封面还以为是讲“技术”的，后来发现其实是蛮严谨的性心理学与心理治疗相关的书籍。在sex方面存在各种各样问题的人，其实远远多于表面上能看出来的，推荐给所有怀疑自己可能有sex方面心理障碍的人，特别是女孩子。作者有一个核心的model，即accerlerator-break模型：如果不能正常的turned on，要么是因为accelerator一侧有问题，那么就从比如说改进上床前的context来改进，要么是break一侧有问题，即可能是由于文化、个人不愉快的经历、或者不正确的性知识等存在break过强的问题。两者相对独立，当都合适时才会产生令人满意的sex。作者反复强调的另一个观点是，许多你觉得自己有问题的地方，其实是很正常的。接受自己。
##有很多科普知识，但里面夹带的那套美式self help理论太讨厌了，坚信“love your body”是能够解决一切问题的灵丹妙药
##涨姿势使用。
##有很多科普知识，但里面夹带的那套美式self help理论太讨厌了，坚信“love your body”是能够解决一切问题的灵丹妙药